While I was sure I was over it, my dreams say something else. It is easy to redirect your thoughts and control your feelings throughout the day but what happens when you close your eyes and fall deep into that much needed sleep?
Well, I'll tell you what has been going on! For the last 5 days I can't stop having these annoying dreams that involve HIM and his lies... His current relationship and me going, WHY? I just don't get it, I work so hard every day to not think about anything and focus on the things and people that matter, and then I go to sleep... UGH!
I honestly don't care about the WHY, I am just relieved that it's over and that it happened when it did and not after married because the last thing I want on my record is another divorce. This brings me to my next question - Am I ready to date again?
Friends tell me I should start putting myself out there, but what is wrong with being alone? I have learned through trial and error that the best thing to do after breaking a long term relationship is to be alone. It is necessary to go back to yourself and learn about this new you. What are our issues? What did you drag from this partner? What do you need to work on before jumping into another imperfect partner?
Learning from your mistakes is essential to make sure that the story does not repeat itself, and that is why most rebound relationships do not last. How soon is too soon and how long is too long? At least a few months is necessary just to mourn and then whatever it takes you to learn what are those things that you need to work on so your next relationship is a healthy one.
No one says the next relationship will be perfect, because we all know that new challenges will come up; but at least by working on what were your flaws and faults in your previous relationship will help you not to make the same mistakes all over again. It will also make you more aware of the new challenges and help you deal with them in a healthier way.
Any tips on controlling your dreams? Because this is annoying!
See ya!
XO
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