Oh boy has this been interesting... I am back on Match.com and honestly I still don't know if I am ready or even have the time to dedicate to this. I think I am out of patience and just don't feel like dealing with all the BS, which honestly is way more than what I remembered.
I have gone on 4 dates so far and I can barely stand anyone, there is though one guy that made it to a second and a third date because he is mostly normal and cute but I still find myself pointing out (to myself) all his imperfections.
No one is perfect... right? And I do have to say, this is the exact same thing I did to try to sabotage my last relationship where I ended up engaged and living together. My point is that maybe with age my Virgo characteristics seem to be getting stronger, I even vacuum every day and sometimes twice which seems extremely OCD to me.
So after 3 dates should I assume he is interested? I usually throw the bomb pretty early about exclusivity. I am not one to date more than one person at a time and I am assuming that at any moment pilot boy is going to try to make a move, which I will welcome... But there is no way I will be sucking face with anyone that is not "at least" giving me the exclusivity rights.
So some people debate my decision of putting this up front in such an early stage, but I say it's part of the screening process. If your level of interest is not high enough to be willing to at least entertain the idea of giving us the chance to see how things go without external distractions, then simply you are not worth my time.
My theory is that in the on-line dating world, the grass will always be greener on the other side. The options are so vast that you will always be curious about what the next candidate has to offer. In my opinion, unless you stop for a while to pursue the one that caught your attention you will never settle and give anyone a fair chance.
So date #4 is tomorrow and he is actually cooking dinner for me at his house... He actually cooks, woot woot! What the location leads me to believe is that at some point during the cooking/cleaning Mr. Smooth will come out and try to make a move. Nervous? Yes, which is why I have to throw the bomb of exclusivity so neither him nor I waste our time.
Am I being too direct too soon? Maybe... But if you want a piece of me then you have to play by my rules. I don't think you sticking with me and only me is too much to ask, specially if your trying to take this casual friendship to the next level.
I am also terrified that he might want to take me out for a ride on his "fast plane" because yes, there are 2 small planes! Ughh... I am freaking out! Why can't I be like my daughter and just jump on the freaking plane? Somehow I do not think of this as fun and that might be a big hiccup when it comes to compatibility... or maybe I will fly once and love it and then everything will be fine ;)
Oh well, we shall see what happens... If he or I freak out then... NEXT!
Until next post.
CM
